Couples often use the word ‘sex’ and ‘intimacy’ interchangeably.
Intimacy and sexuality may be linked in the dictionary, but they are far from meaning the same.
Sex is simply the act of intercourse; the physical gratification of enjoying a good sexual experience and orgasm with your partner.
Intimacy is something else – something much deeper. Intimacy is a closeness with another person, like the intimacy that develops between friends as you tell one another your life stories and all your secrets and dreams for the future.
Intimacy without Sex
Intimacy is at the heart of a strong relationship. Intimacy is about knowing someone deeply and being able to be completely free in that person’s presence. It is an emotional state that is often reserved for just one person. Intimacy doesn’t always have to lead to sex. People create intimacy all the time with without it leading to sex. For example, you create intimacy when a relative dies and you cry on the shoulder of a close friend who comforts you. Intimacy is a vital part of your relationship. Without intimacy, your relationship often feels “casual” or “lifeless”.
Sex without Intimacy
However, sex also is just a physical act. Within a relationship, sex is the most intimate act, but it can also be an act without consent, an act which is paid for, or a mere physical exchange. A one-night stand is a perfect example of sex without an intimate relationship. Both men and women can enjoy the sex of a one-night stand, but it is a physical act rather than a loving act.
When you understand the difference between sex and intimacy you can understand better your own sexual urges what you’re in the mood for. It also helps you understand what your partner is in the mood for and why. This creates a whole new level of understanding in the bedroom and can take your relationship to new heights.